I just had a nervous breakdown on Sat Aug 2,2008. Because I just couldn't take it anymore with this person. I tried to be patient with her around my guy and I didn't see any improvements on her part.
This is what I would see every time she was with me and my boyfriend:
1. She would make very rude noises around just me and my boyfriend, But only when I'm around; She never made rude noises when it was just my boyfriend and her in the area. She would act normal he told me. And laugh and giggle at anything he said to her.
2. She would always flirt, play tussle with my boyfriend while I'm right there watching and it would get out of control. That she would be on top of him or vice versa.
3. She would block out what you say and ignore what concerns you have with her on boundaries on personal space with myself and her around my boyfriend.
4. Plus, she has a whole lot of mental and physical issues that she won't face to grow up.
I talked with my boyfriend about this. He asked questions to his friends they told him that girl is messing with your relationship and she has to go. They also told my boyfriend that what he was allowing was flirting and cheating right in front of me and that is beyond insulting to your girlfriend and your future step daughter.
I told him that she always leaves messages on his phone and texts him too. Plus she has a myspace page and leaves messages almost all the time in a week. Yet she never really talks to me or gets to know me like a friend should. She is to interested in what my boyfriend likes and dislikes.
While every time he asks or I ask with him are you interested in my boyfriend she denies it all and acts like this is the way she is. She only behaves around her best friend cause I only told her about my complaints once about her leaving us hanging at a fun park to go see her best friend. I was weak from an accident too. I guess it was just to boring for her ego to know what is more important at that time.
She doesn't like having people talk to others about her and she wants you to confront her and she said it won't hurt her feelings too. But if she ignores your warnings and acts retarded like she doesn't understand anything you say anything to confront the issue at hand and she blows it off and repeats this problem again.
I got confused aboutquestions to ask your girlfriend when your bored why she lies and acts so normal around my boyfriend and rude and pretends to be my friend around her best friend and my boyfriend. Then when I really wasn't able to take it any more I was tired from a bike ride in a park. I was struggling with my balance and I was flushed. When my boyfriend was done teacher her martial arts I waited in the car.
She comes in my car and asks me what's wrong. I told her isn't it obvious I'm tired. Then she says; "You don't have to get mad about it, it is because of me". I said it will be if you don't let me breathe. She didn't say anything else. Then my boyfriend invited her to come eat with us. She didn't walk to her car she just sat in my car didn't ask if I could give her a ride and I just waited to take off after my body cooled down and drove her to her car that was across the street.
Then as I drove her to her car she didn't say thank you for the ride. But she slams my door. When we go to the location to eat I couldn't leave me car. If I did someone would've stole my bike and I didn't bring my lock. Anyway I stayed in my trying to calm down from this stress and I didn't leave my car for 1hr 30 mins. I asked my boyfriend to get me some food and I told him that I wanted to go home. Because he was checking up on me when I let out a scream in my car.
As I waited for him to let her know that I don't feel comfortable around her. All she said to my boyfriend was this: "I didn't know when it all went sour" and told my boyfriend that she will see him next Sat weekend to practice martial arts.
You can't help but go insane and wonder if this is worth the time to talk, think, act, or just dump her and find a new friend until she learns something from this mess. Plus I worry about my boyfriend if he continues to train her and if they have a falling out what if she claims assault or rape because of the contact training involved in martial arts. I don't want it to mess up his life as well. All because I though bring my friend home and introducing her to my boyfriend would make us all friends together.
That was and still my stress currently today..
That sounds like a lot of crap you shouldn't be putting up with. First of all, she's not a friend. Period. Even if she's telling the truth about not being after you boyfriend (which she's probably nquestions to ask your girlfriend when your boredot), she's still not a good friend to you anyway. You need to leave her before things get even worse.
Also, you may want to have a sit down talk with your boyfriend. He should have put a stop to things a long time ago. Ask him to put some distance between them until you destress. If he refuses, he may not even be worth it, either.
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Thank you for your help. I will try and recover. Yes, Her reply was "Why bother trying your already walking on egg shells with her". And he told her that I still care about her and I want to work this out.
Thanks
It seems that your friend is in fact very interested in your boyfriend. That, in and of itself, should not be a problem. People cannot always help how they feel about a person. However, people are in control of how they deal with their feelings. Both your boyfriend and friend are showing a lack of consideration and conscientiousness. Obviously, you should not try and control whom your boyfriend befriends. However, your boyfriend is pursuing a friendship with a person that is rude to you and your relationship. His friends are absolutely right, he is acting in a manner that is insulting to you. It is my understanding that you have a daughter. For her sake and yours, you should move on from both relationships.
there's a simple answer to your problem that will eliminate the possibility of future nervous breakdowns.
dump her.
then, dump him.
because she is obviously after your man and he's either too dumb or too flattered to recognize the warning signs. and he doesn't respect you enough to leave her alone.
neither of them are worth a nervous breakdown.
and if this is causing you to have real nervous breakdowns, you need to talk to a therapist, because this type of stress is pretty normal and doesn't cause breakdowns in most people. you might benefit from a little counseling that would help you to focus your stress and tension (and also to prevent this from happening in future relationships).
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